I have struggled with my weight for as long as I can remember! And with that struggle came depression, bad body image, and just plain not feeling good! At my highest weight, I was considering weight loss surgery because I was just so lost and didn’t know what else to do. It was too hard to exercise because it was painful, and any diet I tried would work for a while but then I would gain all the weight back plus more. It was a cruel cycle!
Then 5 years ago, I became pregnant with my first little guy. I ate healthy, and tried to be as active as I could, and after giving birth I lost a lot of weight! Amazing what breast feeding and just being busy can do! But after stopping breast feeding, I gained a lot back and was dealing with postpartum issues and depression in general.
I finally found a program that worked for me and got onto a better way of living when my son was 2 years old. I felt better about myself, but still had self doubt and there was no way you would catch me in a bathing suit that didn’t have a skirt or look like my grandmother should be wearing it. Then I had my second son 14 months ago, and I discovered clean eating along with the program I had been using previously and I lost all my baby weight and more.
I’m not sure when the shift happened…maybe because I felt so much better, I was keeping up with two kids, I could look in the mirror and like what I saw. A few months ago, I discovered Tess Holliday, who is a size 22 super model and started following her on Instagram. I loved her message: Eff Your Beauty Standards. Why should any woman, no matter their size, their hair, their skin color, their body shape, their different features feel bad about how they look? Especially mothers! Your amazing body created a miracle, kept them safe for 9 months, birthed them into the world, fed them and now chases after these creations morning, noon and night!
It got me thinking of all the women I come into contact with in my business and the millions of reasons they are mean to themselves and want to change themselves to fit an unattainable image. I was fed up!
So, with at least 50 lbs to go for my weight loss goal, I went bathing suit shopping. I didn’t pick out the grandma suit. I bought a bikini! And :::gasp:::, I posted a photo of myself on Facebook in said bikini! All the magazines have the articles of “How to get a bikini body” with images of photo shopped beautiful people and they are setting you up to be disappointed and feel bad about yourself. Want to know how to get a bikini body? Buy a bikini and put it on! Screw the bad self esteem, screw the body shamers, and find something that makes you feel amazing whether it’s a beautiful piece of lingerie, a cute summer dress, or a bikini! Learn to accept your beautiful shape whether it is a size 2 or a size 26! Get out in that swimming pool or on the beach with your kids and play whatever games they want to play, because they don’t give a crap what you look like, they just care that you are there to make memories with them all summer long! Get healthy, not skinny and enjoy the moments with your family.
Megan Fikes is a Native Northern Nevadan, married to Jon and mother of 2 amazing little boys, Kaleb and Jameson. She is a work at home mom, running a successful Arbonne business when she is not chasing after the energetic love bugs she has created. She enjoys reading anything she can get her hands on, cooking for her family and friends, and dancing to the beat of her own drum! She loves living in Reno with all it has to offer and couldn’t imagine not living so close to Lake Tahoe, which is her favorite place on earth! Embracing the journey of motherhood and realizing her own dreams for herself and her family in the Biggest Little City!