Ok, ok…I’m no Jordan Knight but I am a Pisces and some might say, one heck** of a dancer, which makes me the New Kid On The (Reno Moms) Block.
To most who know me, “Mom” is not the first word that comes to mind; particularly in reference to teenagers. For starters, I’m only 32, which makes having 16 and 14 year old kids in the house a little unbelievable. Second, I’m not actually married – yet. Third, I live alone – sometimes.
I know, it sounds complicated. And it kind of is. But here’s my short-winded attempt at explaining it. In less than 120 days, I will marry my boyfriend of nearly five years. He has two kids from a previous marriage, ages 16 and 14. A girl and boy, respectively (I call them No.1 and No. 2).
For the last four years we had been living together at my house when the kids were with their mom. But then No. 1 refused to go back one day and Poof! a full-time teenager in the house. A pile of her belongings landed on the front lawn just days later, cementing the new living arrangement in place (that’s a story for another day).
When we got engaged last year we learned that many people thought we were already married and live together full time. Neither of those things is true.
We may be the last couple on Earth to live separately before marriage, but it’s only because his house (or at least most of it) is currently being torn down and rebuilt so that we can all live together after the wedding.
So, to answer your questions: Yes. I am planning a wedding, building a house, maintaining my own household, helping raise two teenagers and working full time. Oh, and my future mother-in-law lives next door….and her mom lives next door to her.
In short, my life is quite a whirlwind right now so I was invited to join this impressive group of multi-tasking, kid-raising, husband-rearing ladies as the resident Hot Mess. And you get to witness it in all its blazing glory.
I must add though, that while some people may not consider me a mom, I take my role very seriously. Very seriously. I am a child of divorce and I know how bad it sucks. I also had a step-parent so I know how complicated that relationship can be. And, because I am the outsider in the family (even though I’ve been there for five years), it gives me a unique perspective into what’s going on with the kids. I see with a different set of eyes and it is extraordinarily important to me that our kids are well taken care of, balanced, caring, respectful, intelligent individuals – despite their circumstances – and it is up to me, in part, to make them that way.
So, welcome to my journey. It’s going to be quite a ride.
**”heck” does not necessarily imply “good”