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Self-Care Is Not Selfish

Today’s guest post is from Tabitha Carlisle, a Reno mom of two and a Certified Life Coach. She’s on a mission to take better care of herself, and wants to challenge you to do the same.

Reno mom and Certified Life Coach Tabitha Carlisle

This is my blog post public declaration that I am going to increase my self-care.  I cannot ignore me any longer.  I am entertaining my fourth week of a cough, runny nose and cold (and I am tired of blaming it on my cute, but germ-infested little people). I have things to do, children to care for, holidays to prepare for, a business to run and a very messy house to clean. Mothers absolutely DO NOT have time for a compromised immune system.

I don’t know about you, but I rarely make time for just me. Obviously this is not working well, and my body is telling me to slow down. I meet with clients all the time who struggle with work/life rhythm and all the irrefutable daily responsibilities of Motherhood. I am constantly repeating, “You must clear space for what is important.”  Self-care is important.  Self-care is not selfish.  Self-care is self-love.   If we don’t put our oxygen masks on first, the whole freaking plane will go down.

Back to my public declaration of increasing self-care… these are the steps I am going to take, starting today:

  1. Define self-care.  For me, it means taking time just for me, without the expectations of others and without guilt.
  2. Remember the benefits.  Benefits include: a stronger immune system, a greater sense of peace and well-being, more patience and presence when I am with my children, more energy for myself and others.
  3. Find time for self-care.  First, I will reread bullet number two and remember why this is so important.  Second, I will add this time to my calendar (yes, the hardest step really can be that simple!).
  4. Who is holding me accountable?  I am declaring this publicly so the fine readers of Reno Moms Blog can ask me how I’m doing when they see me at Target – seriously!
  5. What shall I choose as self-care?  Watching five episodes in a row of Long Island Medium or scrolling through my Facebook newsfeed for an hour (or ten) is not self-care – even though I love both.  There is a big difference between quiet numbing and quiet self-care.   So, I choose to go to bed earlier three nights per week so I have time to read my juicy fiction novels.  And I choose to finish my Reiki Master training, which includes one day a month of class learning and meditation.  I also choose to spend the last five minutes of each day in my closet offering gratitude for what I have (yes, I do this in my closet…no judging, please).

I challenge you lovely readers to do the same.  With the holidays approaching, it is even more important for us to take care of ourselves, so we can be our best in taking care of our children and our families.   Finally, if you see me out and about, please make sure to ask me how my self-care is coming along.  Hold me accountable!

With Gratitude for this blog and our community,
Tabitha Carlisle, Certified Life Coach and Mother of two munchkins

Tabitha owns the Nahara Center in Reno, where she works with women in all stages of motherhood, from pre-conception to living with teenagers, to define their dreams and balance the chaos of motherhood.   When she is not assisting others in finding their passions, Tabitha is running around after her four-year-old daughter and two-year-old son.  If there is any time left over after that, she loves getting outside for a run or rolling out her yoga mat for a handstand.


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