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I Don’t Know How She Does It: Shelley

This entry is part 2 of 10 in the series I Don't Know How She Does It

How does anyone do it, really?  Or, why do we do it?  I believe once we become moms, we have a tendency to take on way more than we can handle, you know…superhuman mom strength, and the ability to not die while getting it done.  Is it pretty?  Nope.  We go too long without showering, eating and sleeping.  And our children will always look cleaner and better dressed than we ever will.   So back to my question…why do we do it?  I don’t know, ask me when I’m a grandma.Following suit with Lynnette’s post in this series….

1. What’s your work schedule?
HAHAHAHAHA schedule…that’s funny!  It’s all about staying alive!  I work whenever I possibly can.  Being in the photography business, our schedules are never consistent.  Jobs are scattered throughout the week and at different times of the day. Since Danny takes on the actual photographing, and I take on the editing/marketing, I am usually stuck at the desk between 8-14 hours a day. We homeschool in the morning and usually start the work day after lunch.  We take a break for dinner  and when  the kiddos are finally in bed, that is when we get the serious work done without any distractions.  Sometimes the workday ends at 10:00 p.m., and sometimes it ends at 2:00 a.m. ( like last night ). But, being in charge of our own schedules allows us to take breaks when we need them, and have lots of family time.

2. How do you handle childcare?
Netflix is our babysitter, only kind of kidding 🙂    We are with our kiddos all week long and they hang out with  Grandma once a week for four hours where we attempt to go on a date, but usually end up working on the house or tackling our neverending to-do list!  Our kids are very involved in everything we do and we like it that way.

3. Where do you work during the day?
I work in our school room/office.  It’s actually quite cute.  We have a small house, so I can hear everything that goes on and it reminds me to get up often and connect with the kids.  It also allows to hear EVERYTHING ( ex.  fights,  fights, and more fights ), which can also be bad 🙂

4. What do you like best about your current set-up?
I’m in charge.  Do you hear the control freak coming out of me?  I love that I can work next to my husband; it’s a reminder of how hard we have worked to get to this point! I love our desk for two and matching computers.  Cheesy, right? 🙂

5. What do you find so-so/tricky/hilariously bad about your current set-up? What would you change if you had a magic wand?
I would love to just have my own space that was dedicated to work only.  I currently share it with my kiddos’ school supplies, a treadmill, and it’s also the guest bedroom so when we have company we have to move our computers out to get work done!

6. Do you have any time for yourself?
No.  I have a husband that makes time for me.  I am constantly plagued with too much ambition.  If I have free time, I am filling it up with something to do.  It’s super hard for me to relax.  When did this happen?  Not really sure, but I think I miss being able to relax 🙂  When I am losing my mind. which happens about once month, you know when that time is (!):  I lock myself in my room and watch 80’s movies.  Danny is really good about giving me breaks and creating quiet time, and I’m super grateful for that.

7. How do you and your husband fit your marriage into the balance?
This has always been our dream: to work together.  Before we were married, we were best friends and somehow we are really good co-workers together.  We feed off of each other’s inspirations.  We have always, always made time to just hang out at the end of the day.  Even if it’s 2:00 a.m.  We might just snuggle and watch TV, we might sit and talk about this and that, but at the end of the day, it’s only about the two of us.

8. Do you ever wonder how other women manage the juggle? Have you talked to other women about it?
I did the whole comparing myself to other women/moms/business women a few years ago and let it affect me.  I wasn’t good enough, everyone has more energy, everyone got dressed every day…after talking to a lot of mom friends about how they do things, I realized we are all in the same boat.  We are all desperately trying to do our best, make everyone happy, usually neglecting ourselves and doing it all out of love.  I have stopped comparing myself because really, what good does that do?  I am Shelley.  I am a good mom, a good business woman and a terrible housekeeper. I know my husband and children love me dearly and that is truly all that matters to me.

9. What advice would you give to other moms about how to balance work and life?
Life is so much more special than your work life.  Work can’t give you kisses at the end of the day.   Learn to recognize the signs of exhaustion and overload.  When you see that everything is too much, make yourself take a break.

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About Shelley Lemaire

Shelley Lemaire
Shelley balances a full load – owning a business, 3 spectacular kids, homeschooling and, oh yeah, being a total creative genius! Shelley blogs at We Are Day Dreamers and owns Lemaire Photography with husband Danny.

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